Being Super Mom

Describe a phase in life that was difficult to say goodbye to.

2/28/24

7:12 pm

The day I became an empty nester, the last of my little birdies had finally flown away, was the hardest one to get through.

We dropped my youngest kid off at college and made that long drive back home. My eldest child tried to keep me talking and engaged in conversation but they could see it in my eyes, I was feeling pretty sad.

It was an adjustment, living on my own for a while. I got used to doing whatever I wanted. Then one little bird flew back home because of the pandemic. He is back in school locally, living with me, and we just go about our daily lives. The goal now is to get him back on track again. He’s optimistic and doing well.

I reminisce about being that “Super Mom” who was involved in every aspect of my children’s lives as well as pursuing my own personal goals. I was a PTA, Johnson O’Malley, Soccer, Band, and Orchestra mom. I was also that parent that would question teachers or administrators and be involved in my kids academic progress. When they were little, every birthday had a theme, and every holiday was a grand gesture. I was once told “You are the busiest stay at home mom I have ever met.” I was constantly on the go.

I wanted to make sure my children never wanted for anything and that they would have good memories of their childhoods, it was the least that I could do. We could not give them everything they wanted but hopefully, we instilled good values, ensured they were independent thinkers, and that they had goals for their lives.

I see them as adults now and they are good people. They have surrounded themselves with good people. It is the most that I wanted for them, to have people who are there for them when I cannot be.

I knew all too well what life could have been for them and forever grateful that they did not know the trauma their father and I had experienced growing up.

It was well worth the sleepless nights, the days of having very little for myself, and the worry over them.

The only thing I wish I had done differently, was ensuring they had better social skills. Their father and I were not very social with others, there was not an example for them to follow. It was a slight struggle when they went out on their own but they have grown into their own personalities now and are fine.

If I had to do it all over again, I would not change a thing.

Thank you for stopping by,

Have a fabulous week!

Peace, love, happiness, and good vibes, always!

Suzanne